I think of my life in terms of these domains: spirit, mind, body, emotion, family, community, vocation, finances, and household. A flourishing life exhibits health and vitality in each of these domains.
If we suffer a collapse in one of these domains, it becomes difficult to flourish. If two or more collapse, we are well on our way to a train wreck.
I keep a practice for each of these domains by which I can improve or maintain the well being of each. It is particularly important for householders to keep their balance, and especially difficult as well. The life of a householder is full of obligations, commitments, and stress.
If we are determined to become “the best” in a particular domain, that translates into at least 10,000 hours of deliberate practice, or three hours a day for ten years, while still maintaining enough gas in the tank to keep the other domains in a state of health. That is no mean feat, especially if you’re a householder.
What happens to someone like me if he lets go of excellence, and chooses instead to flourish?
His practices teach him what’s important, teach him discipline, and give him a sense of accomplishment. His practices lead to emotional and behavioral stability. He is a blessing to his family, and blessed by them in turn. He practices vulnerability, reaches out to others, and serves his community. He becomes skilled at his vocation, financially secure, and lives in a clean and organized home.
He is an ordinary person, flourishing in an ordinary life.