Industry need not wish, as Poor Richard says, and he that lives upon hope will die fasting. There are no gains, without pains…(Benjamin Franklin)
Pain is an indicator. It warns us of disease. It tells us when we’re hurting ourselves or being damaged in some way.
It can also signal when our practice is leading to growth and when it is not. Muscle growth results from microscopic muscle tears that cause pain, but also result in muscle tissue that is rebuilt with greater density. We get stronger.
Deliberate practice focuses on those aspects of our work where we fall short, that we don’t do well, that are hard. This in turn creates frustration, a kind of psychic pain, or anxiety that we won’t accomplish the goal our practice is meant to accomplish.
Mastery is learning to stay with the pain long enough to achieve breakthrough to the next level. It’s learning to continually work the edge between growth and damage, between faith and discouragement, between where we are and where we want to be.
Working that edge is always hard, is always painful, because there is always a gap between where we are and where we are going. And working the edge means working on that part we haven’t yet learned to do, lifting a weight we haven’t lifted; working till the pain is nearly unendurable, but not quite.
That is hard to do alone. The experts nearly always have a mentor, a coach, someone to push and pull them along, to encourage them when they get discouraged, to build faith in them that they can accomplish their goal, to point out the best steps to take along the way.
But no one can do the work for us. No one can take away the pain for us. Pain is the price of breakthrough, of transformation.