All my life I have struggled to keep my emotions under good regulation. When I wasn’t worried or anxious, I was angry or depressed. Joy was nearly unknown to me, and I thought it belonged only to those who had won some great victory.
When the series on Integral Life Practice came to an end, I wanted to work with someone on my shadow self in the context of the enneagram. One of the presenters referred me to an Emotional Polar Therapist.
My first visit to this woman was very strange, yet powerful. We had an interview. She tapped on my shoulder and took some notes. She had me push against her hand while thinking some thought and took more notes.
She put magnets under my feet, a pillow on my lap, and a kind of bicolor needle work between my hands. Then she laid hands on me and had me breathe deeply in unison with her. She had me repeat after her affirmations like, “I am a valuable person,” or “I deserve success,” etc.
The odd thing was that it was a struggle for me to say these things. In fact, at one point I began to choke and weep. This was my first visit, mind, and all the while I’m asking myself whether I’d been referred to some kind of witch doctor.
When that was done she gave me some homework of breathing exercises, and “kriyas” to do. I left feeling like something had “happened,” like I’d seen a light after a long stay in a cave.
I did the exercises daily, returned to her periodically, and began to notice a gradual change in my emotional state. The frequency and duration of my negative emotions steadily decreased. The same measures of my positive emotions trend upwards.
I even experience joy now, and have discovered that it has less to do with great victories than it does with recognizing small ones.